“Where’s Your Unlimited Metrocard?”


“If you get back with him, I’m not going to think of you as the smart Kim I know.  I’m going to think of you as weak and desperate.”

Had it not been for my guy friends, I’d probably still be waiting and wishing for a way to get back with my ex.  True, nothing is like a post-heartbreak pow-wow with your girls, but they were all pretty much saying the same thing.

“Wow! He’s an idiot! *pause* Do you think you guys will ever get back together?”

I kept giving the same response.  I don’t know… Because I didn’t.  The last thing on my mind was dating other people.  Convinced I was not girlfriend material, I had accepted that I would be an old maid unless I got my ex back.  Oddly, it seemed that my girlfriends agreed. Some suggested I befriend him, maybe he’d realize he made a terrible mistake. Maybe he would miss me as a girlfriend and want me back.  Maybe he’d see that I’m The One and he’d come beating down my door begging for forgiveness. Quizás. (Now that I think about it, I wouldn’t want any of those things to come true.  Why should I be the runner up?)

The boys were of a completely different mindset.  They told me to delete his number, ignore his texts and emails… completely forget about him.  One even told me to “throw that booty around.”  Metaphorically speaking.  But when my friend hinted at my desperation it really shook me up.  Desperate never was a word that I associated with myself.  Gram (my munchkin, my dumpling, my grandmother) agreed with the boys.  “If you listen to those girls, you’ll be moo-hooing over him forever.  I thought you had an unlimited Metrocard.”  That was our running joke… she would say, “Men are like buses.  There’s always another one coming.”  And I would quip back, “Yep, and I have an unlimited Metrocard!”  Where was my Metrocard?

That was the last time I pined for him.  With all my moxie gathered, I flirted with every cute guy I saw.  Coquette… I was back.


3 responses »

  1. Big up Ma! I could sit you down for days and tell you about girls who go through the same thing and who have asked me my opinion, only to look back at me like I’m out of my mind. I’ve been told how insensitive I am to them and their situtation, only to have them come back months later upset that they didn’t take my advice. S*!t I tell them the real, what they don’t want to hear, which for the record happens to be the truth. Though I’m officially and happily unavailable, I had the pre-released metro-card when it was in it’s testing stage. Your gram aint lying. There was always another shorty. Hell I got off the bus just to swipe on another, just to see where it might take me!

  2. I’m still fighting not to “moo- hoo” as your grams say over my ex now. lol Whether our girlfriends have an ulterior motive or not, they always get it wrong. Every girl needs that guy friend who will tell it to them straight.

  3. Ohh Man Miss Kimmie…I said the same thing as the boys and a little something extra…We don’t chase ’em We replace ’em EARLY!!

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